Every relationship is perfect in its own way. Even when it isn’t, you can make it perfect again. To help you with that, we have some tips and advice to improve your relationship. Even if you don’t think it needs improving, these five steps will certainly help keep the flame.b Don’t trust us? Keep reading.
5 tips that can help you improve your relationship
Don’t let the routine win
Routine killed many relationships and even more marriages. With time, it gets harder to keep the spark going. Or is it? Don’t fall into the trap of taco Tuesdays, Netflix Wednesdays, and margarita Fridays. Escape the boring routine. Start a new hobby together. Go and visit Greece as you always dreamed of, together. Your hubby grew a lumberjack beard? Say congrats and buy him a beard shaping tool. Learn how to dance, conquer the karaoke nights with your version of “Staying alive” by Bee Gees. Life is short. Don’t let boredom wins over your relationship.
Surprise with little things
And not shiny little diamonds, although you can’t go wrong with ‘em. No, we mean getting up earlier than your spouse and making breakfast. Cheering when your partner does something important to him, whether it is a soccer match or a poetry evening. Put small chocolate into his jacket pocket before going to work…and write a dirty message as soon as he gets to work. That will get him through the day. That, and sudden “I love you” whispered spontaneously.
Go on a date
The thrill doesn’t have to disappear because you are overcrowded with work, children, or something else. Designate one evening every month to go on a date. Yes, official date, with roses, dinner, and a dance. Find time. It will remind you on the first days of your relationship and keep the flame going. And now, you don’t even have to wait for the first date anymore… And knowing where your date lives make things easier.
Bonus tip: Going on a date and pretending you don’t know each other can really spice up your imagination.
Sting was (again) right: sorry seems to be the hardest word. But the main thing is to remember that you are not fighting for your life. You are having an argument with someone you love. You don’t have to win every time, and you must certainly not hurt your partner just for the sake of winning the argument. If you are wrong, apologize. Simple as that. If you were right, you don’t have to rub it in your partner’s face.
That said, you don’t have to apologize if you are right, but sometimes, for the sake of not hurting each other, end the discussion with no winner. Or with a sudden kiss. It always helps.
Personal growth is important
Just because you are seeing someone doesn’t mean you stopped existing as a human being and now function as a part of a larger collective. You are still you. Find time for yourself, develop a new hobby and a new way to improve your well-being. Have some friends that are not mutual. You need to love yourself to be the best person you can. You don’t have to exclude your partner. Just make some room for you to be you.
Every relationship is special and worth fighting for. And long-term relationships are even more special and even more challenging. But even if you are still in the honeymoon phase of your relationship, with these five steps, you can’t go wrong!